多专注你认可、向往的事物，别总盯着你反感、排斥的东西。 很多人一天里大半时间都在琢磨自己讨厌什么，逢人就吐槽各种看不惯的事：难吃的饭菜、枯燥的学科、对立的党派、难相处的同事。 你的人生不该只被各种糟心事填满。去热爱你真正喜欢的一切，以此塑造属于自己的模样。 Focus on the things you are for, not the things you are against. Many people spend large chunks of their day thinking about what they hate. They are always telling you about something they dislike: this food, that subject, this political party, that coworker. You are more than your frustrations. Build your identity around what you love.